If you feel like you have money problems in your marriage, you’re not alone. Managing finances one of the #1 issues that married couples can fight about. We’ve been married for eleven years and it’s still really tricky! Check out these three communication tips that have help cultivate peace between my husband and me as we navigate our financial issues.
How Couples with Money Problems Need to Communicate
Confession: I’m someone who breaks out into a cold sweat whenever I look at my bank account.
I like numbers to add up. Staying under budget is a love language, right? Few things in life give me peace of mind than a cushy emergency savings account.
My husband…let’s just say he’s got a great conviction about enjoying life.
We had financial management issues during the early years of our marriage. Actually, we still do.
After many conversations with friends over the years, I’ve learned that this dynamic in marriage is quite common: one leaning to the “spender” end of the spectrum and the other leaning to the “saver” side.
So when it comes to things like if/when/where to go on vacation versus invest in the future, horns can lock.
It gets ugly. If I’m to take an honest look at our marriage dynamic, this is the one issue I’ve spilled the most tears over.
If you’re that unicorn couple that is so awesomely disciplined and unified about sticking to a budget and reaching your financial goals, I truly admire you. But if it just doesn’t come that easily to you, don’t despair. Think of this as an opportunity to refine your marriage relationship.
Here are several strategies that have helped us smooth out the tension when my husband and I disagree about finances (and these are also just good conflict-resolution principles for any topic!)
Read the rest of this post by clicking over to Equipping Godly Women: Want to Stop Fighting about Money? 3 Things You Must Do.
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